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Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
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Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
2mo
Your team feels stuck.
Disengaged.
Anxious.
You look for a strategy problem.
Maybe it’s a human one.
Two deeper needs are being ignored:
1. Maslow before metrics
When safety and belonging are missing, performance drops.
Unmet lower needs hijack attention.
An employee worried about job security won’t innovate.
They’re trying to feel safe.
2. Attachment shows up at work
People don’t leave their patterns at the door.
Anxious → seeks constant reassurance
Avoidant → withdraws under pressure
It’s not attitude. It’s wiring.
So what’s the leader’s real job?
Not motivation.
Safety.
Because trust is built on safety.
And without trust, nothing moves.
Create an environment where people can:
– speak without fear
– fail without punishment
– ask without hesitation
That’s the foundation.
Build that first.
Then performance follows.
38
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
If I have a message for people who say I can't write.
It's: start writing badly.
43
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
The best motivator for skill development is purpose.
“I’m not good at this yet.
But I need to get good at it.”
That’s what brings you back after a bad performance.
After the rejection.
After the awkward first attempt.
After falling flat on your face (yes, that part too).
Because:
When your reason is weak, you stop fast.
When your reason is strong, you return.
I learned this from the book Hell Yeah or No.
There’s a moment where the coach tells the author:
“You didn’t want it enough.”
That line stayed with me.
At first, it sounded harsh. Later, I realized it was true.
There were things I said I wanted.
But not badly enough to keep going when it got uncomfortable.
And that changed how I look at growth.
If you really want the skill, you’ll keep showing up.
Messy.
Inconsistent.
Embarrassed.
Still showing up.
So if you’re struggling to improve at something right now, ask yourself one honest question:
How badly do you actually want it?
Sometimes the problem isn’t your talent.
It’s your reason.
What’s one skill you know you need to develop, and why does it matter to you?
36
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1w
I've talked about the same problem for days.
That doesn't mean I understood it.
You'd be surprised how little most of us actually know about our problems.
And you'd be surprised how little we want to understand them at a deeper level.
We'd rather talk around them than look underneath them.
Don't get me wrong.
Digging deeper isn't always the right move.
Sometimes the deeper analysis is just another way of avoiding the action.
But there's one question that tells you which direction is right:
Does going deeper bring me closer to the outcome I actually want?
If yes, dig.
If not, it's not depth you need. It's a decision.
36
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
This story was shared anonymously on Reddit
Let me know how would you respond/ provide help for the person asking.
“I am 19M and i have no discipline in my life, i sleep for 12 hours a day, eat
shit and scroll all day and my attention span is so bad that i cant even watch a youtube video or a movie, however i still go to the gym and i have a decent slim body with muscles but i know i could do so much better if i focused on my diet but i keep procrastinating to do it, i also suffer from adult videos and i have tried to quit but i keep relapsing.
I really want to have productive days and learn editing, finance skills, social
skills and get in shape before university which starts on September but i lack discipline and courage in me, i also can't keep up for e.g i decided to upload tiktok edits and i only did it for 2 days before quitting.
I waste complete days scrolling through X, insta, tiktok and youtube instead of focusing on myself and self improving, and i really want to improve but i just can't keep up”
37
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
If you think asking for help is a weakness.. this post is for you..
There's a diagnostic model called KSA: Knowledge, Skills, Attitude.
When something isn't getting done, the gap is usually one of those three.
But when someone won't ask for help, it's almost never a knowledge gap.
It's rarely a skill gap.
It's almost always an attitude gap.
A quiet belief running in the background.
"If I ask, they'll think I'm not capable."
"If I ask, I owe them."
"If I ask, I lose."
But the truth is:
Every time you don't ask, you also rob someone else of the chance to contribute.
In Karpman's Drama Triangle, the Rescuer never gets to be helped: because they've built their identity on being the one who helps.
That's not strength.
That's a role.
The real strength is letting yourself need something. And letting someone else be the one to give.
What's one thing you've been carrying alone.. that you could ask someone to help with this week?
34
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1w
WHEN YOU SIT IN SILENCE, YOU'RE NOT SITTING IN SILENCE. YOU'RE SITTING WITH YOUR THOUGHTS.
If you get bored easily, ask yourself this: do you find your thoughts scary? Do you find your thoughts boring and not worthy of your time?
Ask yourself: how do you feel about these thoughts? What do you feel right now?
Bored?
Scared?
Disgusted?
If you have a happy thought, do you think you're unworthy of it?
How do you feel? What is your emotional experience when you sit with your thoughts?
And then, explore these ideas. Let's say you recognize you have these emotions toward your thoughts.
Let's say you think your thoughts are scary. Think of the opposite: what would be a thought that is not scary to you?
A movie you watched? A trip you had with a friend?
Sit with that instead.
Think of your mind as a library, with a collection of stories, experiences, people, and information. Just realize the wealth of things that live within you, and that you get to experience all of them.
32
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
3w
I am starting a new newsletter. It’s titled: Your Weekly Dose of Personal Coaching.
First article is out: The GROW Model in Simple Words.
Would love to hear your feedback!
Click below to read the full article.
The GROW Model in Simple Words
32
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
4 stages to learn anything in life:
1- Unconscious incompetence
(I don’t know what I’m not good at)
Johari model’s blind spot
2- Conscious incompetence
(I know what I’m not good at)
3- Conscious competence
(I know what I’m good at)
4- Unconscious competence
(I don’t know what I’m good at)
The stage you’re in changes how learning feels.
Confusing. Frustrating. Smooth. Effortless.
But none of them are permanent.
If it feels hard, you’re not stuck. You’re just in the middle.
33
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
Writing is a selfish act. (you write for your own sake fist) you want to see those thoughts out of you and you want to see them grow and change. At first you don't write to impress others.
Algorithms take your writing creativity away. Forces you to write in a certain way.
The creative process happens because it HAS to. You do it because you need it to be done in order for you live life.
You need to write.. you need to let it out of you.
33
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
Nobody can teach you how to become the best version of yourself.
That part is internal.
It happens through you, and by you.
And yet, there’s a strong pull toward more information.
More frameworks.
More step-by-step guidance.
More content that promises clarity.
1-The belief
It can feel like being informative is the goal.
Like value must come from teaching something new.
2-The overload
At some point, more input stops creating progress.
It starts creating noise.
Not because learning is bad.
But because not everything needs to be explained.
- The shift
Knowing something is not the same as becoming it.
Information can point.
It can guide.
But it cannot do the work for someone.
- The role of a coach
For me, coaching isn’t about delivering answers.
It’s about creating space.
Asking better questions.
Helping someone see what’s already there.
Because the real change doesn’t come from being told.
It comes from recognizing.
Choosing.
Acting.
In a way that feels true to you.
Information can open the door.
Walking through it is always personal.
28
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
2mo
Trigger → Emotion → Interpretation → Reaction → Outcome
A simple way to understand anger, without making it the enemy
Anger is an emotion.
That part is neutral.
What shapes the outcome is what happens after.
1-The trigger
Something happens.
A comment, a situation, a moment that doesn’t sit right.
2-The emotion
Anger shows up.
Not as a problem, but as a signal.
3-The gap
This is the part that often feels invisible.
The space between feeling and reacting.
When that space is missed, reactions can feel automatic.
1. The naming
“I’m angry.”
“This feels unfair.”
“I feel disrespected.”
Putting words to the feeling creates a pause.
And that pause changes what’s possible next.
2. The response
Not suppression.
Not explosion.
But a choice that aligns with the outcome you actually want.
Because anger, on its own, isn’t the issue.
It’s unprocessed anger (unhealthily expressed) that tends to create friction.
And awareness is what gives it direction.
Some people practice checking in with themselves.
Some are still building that habit.
Both are part of the process.
Emotions don’t need to be rushed.
Naming them is often where clarity begins.
23
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
What makes a coaching space actually powerful?
It’s not one thing. It’s a combination.
Coaches offer a space that’s hard to find:
1-A space that slows you down
So your thoughts can catch up with you.
2-A space without judgment
Where you can say things as they are.
3-A space that sharpens your thinking
Not louder. Just clearer.
4-A space that stays with you
Even after the conversation ends.
5-A space that respects your pace
No rush. No pressure.
And a quick tip:
Choose a coach who is still growing.
Because holding this kind of space takes practice.
Listening.
Questioning.
Being present.
That work never really stops.
The right space doesn’t feel intense. It feels honest.
25
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
Go from: What am I listening to?
To: What am I listening for?
4 steps to go from A to B:
Quite your thoughts
Write your thoughts down
Catch yourself when you want to interrupt a person
Practice, practice, practice.
This adds "purpose" to listening.
Levels up the quality of your conversations
26
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
2w
Read your story as from a third person's perspective, and you'll hear it differently...
We're not used to our own thoughts being heard by someone else's voice...
25
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
Is it a good thing to follow your intuition?
There are people -like me- who totally ignore intuition. I shut it down. (I rely on data)
But there are people who trust that every feeling is an intuition they can follow.
Ashley Doughlas (https://lnkd.in/d3cGWi7e) says neither is wise
Each has its own benefits, and if you only rely on one you're missing out on the benefits of the other one.
Tell me what you think in the comments..
25
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
2mo
Did you see what Oracle did last week? Firing 30,000 employees in 1 day.. about that
Mass layoffs like this, don’t just cut jobs, they quietly reshape how people see their own worth.
Oracle sparked a lot of conversations.
Not just about business.
About identity.
About value.
And about a question many people don’t say out loud.
“If a company can replace thousands overnight… what does that make me worth?”
Let’s slow that down for a second.
1. Your paycheck is a transaction
It reflects a role, a market, a moment in time.
Nothing more.
Nothing less.
It is not a full reflection of your capabilities, your character, or your potential.
2. AI is changing how work gets done
That part is real.
Tasks are evolving.
Roles are shifting.
But tools replacing tasks does not equal people losing value.
It just means the definition of valuable work is moving.
3. The dangerous narrative
When people start tying their worth to replaceability, confidence quietly erodes.
You start negotiating from fear.
You start shrinking your voice.
And that’s where the real loss happens.
Not in the layoff.
But in how someone sees themselves after it.
4. A better way to look at it
Your value is not your hourly rate.
Your value is how you think, adapt, create, and connect.
Those things don’t show up neatly on a paycheck.
But they compound over time.
Always have.
Always will.
The people who navigate moments like this best aren’t the ones who panic.
They’re the ones who separate identity from employment.
And keep building anyway.
Because markets fluctuate.
Technology evolves.
But self-worth, that’s an internal decision.
If your role disappeared tomorrow, what parts of you would still be valuable?
Those are the parts worth investing in.
30
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
Coaching is not therapy, but it's therapeutic.
32
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
Define success for where you are now.. Not the place you want to go..
It's a good practice..
26
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
Define success for where you are now.. Not the place you want to go..
It's a good practice..
26
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
2mo
You have blind spots.
We all do.
They are the things about us that others can see, but we can't.
A model called the Johari Window explains this.
It describes four areas of self-awareness:
Open
What you and others know.
Hidden
What you know, but others do not.
Blind
What others see, but you do not.
Unknown
What no one knows yet.
Most people believe they are self-aware.
Research by Tasha Eurich found that about 95% of people think they are.
Only 10–15% actually are.
That gap matters.
It affects trust.
It affects how feedback lands.
It limits our impact.
Improving self-awareness starts with better questions.
Not why.
Why often leads to stories and justification.
Ask what instead.
What could I do differently next time?
What did you notice?
What feedback do you have for me?
Then listen.
That is how blind spots shrink.
And that is how trust grows.
27
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
1 coaching question destroys guilt..
What action is this feeling of guilt driving me to do?
What action am I going to take?
26
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
2w
Story shared anonymously on Reddit. Curious to know how would you provide help.
"Over the past few months, I realized that my lack of discipline wasn’t about laziness. It was more about mental friction. Simple tasks like writing emails, short posts, or messages felt heavier than they should. Not because I didn’t know what to say, but because I kept trying to make everything perfect from the very first sentence.
That perfectionism kept slowing me down and made me procrastinate. Recently, I decided to focus on process instead of perfection. I started breaking tasks into smaller steps, allowing myself to write bad first drafts, and using a few tools and small systems to help me get started faster instead of staring at a blank page.
The change wasn’t dramatic overnight, but it’s been consistent. I finish tasks faster, feel less overwhelmed, and I actually follow through on things more often now. It made me realize how much discipline is really about removing friction, not forcing motivation.
Curious to hear from others here: What habits, systems, or tools helped you stay more consistent?"
21
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
2w
Why X is doing Y?
Why are they behaving this way?
Because:
People are different.
People are different.
People are different.
People are different.
People are different.
People are different.
Read levels of intelligence
Read personality types
Read leadership styles
Read introverts VS extroverts
22
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1w
How would you define personal inflexibility? I am curios to hear your thoughts.
14
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
2mo
Your team feels stuck.
Disengaged.
Anxious.
You look for a strategy problem.
Maybe it’s a human one.
Two deeper needs are being ignored:
1. Maslow before metrics
When safety and belonging are missing, performance drops.
Unmet lower needs hijack attention.
An employee worried about job security won’t innovate.
They’re trying to feel safe.
2. Attachment shows up at work
People don’t leave their patterns at the door.
Anxious → seeks constant reassurance
Avoidant → withdraws under pressure
It’s not attitude. It’s wiring.
So what’s the leader’s real job?
Not motivation.
Safety.
Because trust is built on safety.
And without trust, nothing moves.
Create an environment where people can:
– speak without fear
– fail without punishment
– ask without hesitation
That’s the foundation.
Build that first.
Then performance follows.
38
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
The best motivator for skill development is purpose.
“I’m not good at this yet.
But I need to get good at it.”
That’s what brings you back after a bad performance.
After the rejection.
After the awkward first attempt.
After falling flat on your face (yes, that part too).
Because:
When your reason is weak, you stop fast.
When your reason is strong, you return.
I learned this from the book Hell Yeah or No.
There’s a moment where the coach tells the author:
“You didn’t want it enough.”
That line stayed with me.
At first, it sounded harsh. Later, I realized it was true.
There were things I said I wanted.
But not badly enough to keep going when it got uncomfortable.
And that changed how I look at growth.
If you really want the skill, you’ll keep showing up.
Messy.
Inconsistent.
Embarrassed.
Still showing up.
So if you’re struggling to improve at something right now, ask yourself one honest question:
How badly do you actually want it?
Sometimes the problem isn’t your talent.
It’s your reason.
What’s one skill you know you need to develop, and why does it matter to you?
36
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
This story was shared anonymously on Reddit
Let me know how would you respond/ provide help for the person asking.
“I am 19M and i have no discipline in my life, i sleep for 12 hours a day, eat
shit and scroll all day and my attention span is so bad that i cant even watch a youtube video or a movie, however i still go to the gym and i have a decent slim body with muscles but i know i could do so much better if i focused on my diet but i keep procrastinating to do it, i also suffer from adult videos and i have tried to quit but i keep relapsing.
I really want to have productive days and learn editing, finance skills, social
skills and get in shape before university which starts on September but i lack discipline and courage in me, i also can't keep up for e.g i decided to upload tiktok edits and i only did it for 2 days before quitting.
I waste complete days scrolling through X, insta, tiktok and youtube instead of focusing on myself and self improving, and i really want to improve but i just can't keep up”
37
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1w
WHEN YOU SIT IN SILENCE, YOU'RE NOT SITTING IN SILENCE. YOU'RE SITTING WITH YOUR THOUGHTS.
If you get bored easily, ask yourself this: do you find your thoughts scary? Do you find your thoughts boring and not worthy of your time?
Ask yourself: how do you feel about these thoughts? What do you feel right now?
Bored?
Scared?
Disgusted?
If you have a happy thought, do you think you're unworthy of it?
How do you feel? What is your emotional experience when you sit with your thoughts?
And then, explore these ideas. Let's say you recognize you have these emotions toward your thoughts.
Let's say you think your thoughts are scary. Think of the opposite: what would be a thought that is not scary to you?
A movie you watched? A trip you had with a friend?
Sit with that instead.
Think of your mind as a library, with a collection of stories, experiences, people, and information. Just realize the wealth of things that live within you, and that you get to experience all of them.
32
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
4 stages to learn anything in life:
1- Unconscious incompetence
(I don’t know what I’m not good at)
Johari model’s blind spot
2- Conscious incompetence
(I know what I’m not good at)
3- Conscious competence
(I know what I’m good at)
4- Unconscious competence
(I don’t know what I’m good at)
The stage you’re in changes how learning feels.
Confusing. Frustrating. Smooth. Effortless.
But none of them are permanent.
If it feels hard, you’re not stuck. You’re just in the middle.
33
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
Nobody can teach you how to become the best version of yourself.
That part is internal.
It happens through you, and by you.
And yet, there’s a strong pull toward more information.
More frameworks.
More step-by-step guidance.
More content that promises clarity.
1-The belief
It can feel like being informative is the goal.
Like value must come from teaching something new.
2-The overload
At some point, more input stops creating progress.
It starts creating noise.
Not because learning is bad.
But because not everything needs to be explained.
- The shift
Knowing something is not the same as becoming it.
Information can point.
It can guide.
But it cannot do the work for someone.
- The role of a coach
For me, coaching isn’t about delivering answers.
It’s about creating space.
Asking better questions.
Helping someone see what’s already there.
Because the real change doesn’t come from being told.
It comes from recognizing.
Choosing.
Acting.
In a way that feels true to you.
Information can open the door.
Walking through it is always personal.
28
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
What makes a coaching space actually powerful?
It’s not one thing. It’s a combination.
Coaches offer a space that’s hard to find:
1-A space that slows you down
So your thoughts can catch up with you.
2-A space without judgment
Where you can say things as they are.
3-A space that sharpens your thinking
Not louder. Just clearer.
4-A space that stays with you
Even after the conversation ends.
5-A space that respects your pace
No rush. No pressure.
And a quick tip:
Choose a coach who is still growing.
Because holding this kind of space takes practice.
Listening.
Questioning.
Being present.
That work never really stops.
The right space doesn’t feel intense. It feels honest.
25
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
2w
Read your story as from a third person's perspective, and you'll hear it differently...
We're not used to our own thoughts being heard by someone else's voice...
25
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
2mo
Did you see what Oracle did last week? Firing 30,000 employees in 1 day.. about that
Mass layoffs like this, don’t just cut jobs, they quietly reshape how people see their own worth.
Oracle sparked a lot of conversations.
Not just about business.
About identity.
About value.
And about a question many people don’t say out loud.
“If a company can replace thousands overnight… what does that make me worth?”
Let’s slow that down for a second.
1. Your paycheck is a transaction
It reflects a role, a market, a moment in time.
Nothing more.
Nothing less.
It is not a full reflection of your capabilities, your character, or your potential.
2. AI is changing how work gets done
That part is real.
Tasks are evolving.
Roles are shifting.
But tools replacing tasks does not equal people losing value.
It just means the definition of valuable work is moving.
3. The dangerous narrative
When people start tying their worth to replaceability, confidence quietly erodes.
You start negotiating from fear.
You start shrinking your voice.
And that’s where the real loss happens.
Not in the layoff.
But in how someone sees themselves after it.
4. A better way to look at it
Your value is not your hourly rate.
Your value is how you think, adapt, create, and connect.
Those things don’t show up neatly on a paycheck.
But they compound over time.
Always have.
Always will.
The people who navigate moments like this best aren’t the ones who panic.
They’re the ones who separate identity from employment.
And keep building anyway.
Because markets fluctuate.
Technology evolves.
But self-worth, that’s an internal decision.
If your role disappeared tomorrow, what parts of you would still be valuable?
Those are the parts worth investing in.
30
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
Define success for where you are now.. Not the place you want to go..
It's a good practice..
26
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
2mo
You have blind spots.
We all do.
They are the things about us that others can see, but we can't.
A model called the Johari Window explains this.
It describes four areas of self-awareness:
Open
What you and others know.
Hidden
What you know, but others do not.
Blind
What others see, but you do not.
Unknown
What no one knows yet.
Most people believe they are self-aware.
Research by Tasha Eurich found that about 95% of people think they are.
Only 10–15% actually are.
That gap matters.
It affects trust.
It affects how feedback lands.
It limits our impact.
Improving self-awareness starts with better questions.
Not why.
Why often leads to stories and justification.
Ask what instead.
What could I do differently next time?
What did you notice?
What feedback do you have for me?
Then listen.
That is how blind spots shrink.
And that is how trust grows.
27
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
2w
Story shared anonymously on Reddit. Curious to know how would you provide help.
"Over the past few months, I realized that my lack of discipline wasn’t about laziness. It was more about mental friction. Simple tasks like writing emails, short posts, or messages felt heavier than they should. Not because I didn’t know what to say, but because I kept trying to make everything perfect from the very first sentence.
That perfectionism kept slowing me down and made me procrastinate. Recently, I decided to focus on process instead of perfection. I started breaking tasks into smaller steps, allowing myself to write bad first drafts, and using a few tools and small systems to help me get started faster instead of staring at a blank page.
The change wasn’t dramatic overnight, but it’s been consistent. I finish tasks faster, feel less overwhelmed, and I actually follow through on things more often now. It made me realize how much discipline is really about removing friction, not forcing motivation.
Curious to hear from others here: What habits, systems, or tools helped you stay more consistent?"
21
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1w
How would you define personal inflexibility? I am curios to hear your thoughts.
14
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
If I have a message for people who say I can't write.
It's: start writing badly.
43
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1w
I've talked about the same problem for days.
That doesn't mean I understood it.
You'd be surprised how little most of us actually know about our problems.
And you'd be surprised how little we want to understand them at a deeper level.
We'd rather talk around them than look underneath them.
Don't get me wrong.
Digging deeper isn't always the right move.
Sometimes the deeper analysis is just another way of avoiding the action.
But there's one question that tells you which direction is right:
Does going deeper bring me closer to the outcome I actually want?
If yes, dig.
If not, it's not depth you need. It's a decision.
36
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
If you think asking for help is a weakness.. this post is for you..
There's a diagnostic model called KSA: Knowledge, Skills, Attitude.
When something isn't getting done, the gap is usually one of those three.
But when someone won't ask for help, it's almost never a knowledge gap.
It's rarely a skill gap.
It's almost always an attitude gap.
A quiet belief running in the background.
"If I ask, they'll think I'm not capable."
"If I ask, I owe them."
"If I ask, I lose."
But the truth is:
Every time you don't ask, you also rob someone else of the chance to contribute.
In Karpman's Drama Triangle, the Rescuer never gets to be helped: because they've built their identity on being the one who helps.
That's not strength.
That's a role.
The real strength is letting yourself need something. And letting someone else be the one to give.
What's one thing you've been carrying alone.. that you could ask someone to help with this week?
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Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
3w
I am starting a new newsletter. It’s titled: Your Weekly Dose of Personal Coaching.
First article is out: The GROW Model in Simple Words.
Would love to hear your feedback!
Click below to read the full article.
The GROW Model in Simple Words
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Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
Writing is a selfish act. (you write for your own sake fist) you want to see those thoughts out of you and you want to see them grow and change. At first you don't write to impress others.
Algorithms take your writing creativity away. Forces you to write in a certain way.
The creative process happens because it HAS to. You do it because you need it to be done in order for you live life.
You need to write.. you need to let it out of you.
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Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
2mo
Trigger → Emotion → Interpretation → Reaction → Outcome
A simple way to understand anger, without making it the enemy
Anger is an emotion.
That part is neutral.
What shapes the outcome is what happens after.
1-The trigger
Something happens.
A comment, a situation, a moment that doesn’t sit right.
2-The emotion
Anger shows up.
Not as a problem, but as a signal.
3-The gap
This is the part that often feels invisible.
The space between feeling and reacting.
When that space is missed, reactions can feel automatic.
1. The naming
“I’m angry.”
“This feels unfair.”
“I feel disrespected.”
Putting words to the feeling creates a pause.
And that pause changes what’s possible next.
2. The response
Not suppression.
Not explosion.
But a choice that aligns with the outcome you actually want.
Because anger, on its own, isn’t the issue.
It’s unprocessed anger (unhealthily expressed) that tends to create friction.
And awareness is what gives it direction.
Some people practice checking in with themselves.
Some are still building that habit.
Both are part of the process.
Emotions don’t need to be rushed.
Naming them is often where clarity begins.
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Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
Go from: What am I listening to?
To: What am I listening for?
4 steps to go from A to B:
Quite your thoughts
Write your thoughts down
Catch yourself when you want to interrupt a person
Practice, practice, practice.
This adds "purpose" to listening.
Levels up the quality of your conversations
26
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
Is it a good thing to follow your intuition?
There are people -like me- who totally ignore intuition. I shut it down. (I rely on data)
But there are people who trust that every feeling is an intuition they can follow.
Ashley Doughlas (https://lnkd.in/d3cGWi7e) says neither is wise
Each has its own benefits, and if you only rely on one you're missing out on the benefits of the other one.
Tell me what you think in the comments..
25
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
Coaching is not therapy, but it's therapeutic.
32
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
Define success for where you are now.. Not the place you want to go..
It's a good practice..
26
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
1 coaching question destroys guilt..
What action is this feeling of guilt driving me to do?
What action am I going to take?
26
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
2w
Why X is doing Y?
Why are they behaving this way?
Because:
People are different.
People are different.
People are different.
People are different.
People are different.
People are different.
Read levels of intelligence
Read personality types
Read leadership styles
Read introverts VS extroverts
22
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
2mo
Your team feels stuck.
Disengaged.
Anxious.
You look for a strategy problem.
Maybe it’s a human one.
Two deeper needs are being ignored:
1. Maslow before metrics
When safety and belonging are missing, performance drops.
Unmet lower needs hijack attention.
An employee worried about job security won’t innovate.
They’re trying to feel safe.
2. Attachment shows up at work
People don’t leave their patterns at the door.
Anxious → seeks constant reassurance
Avoidant → withdraws under pressure
It’s not attitude. It’s wiring.
So what’s the leader’s real job?
Not motivation.
Safety.
Because trust is built on safety.
And without trust, nothing moves.
Create an environment where people can:
– speak without fear
– fail without punishment
– ask without hesitation
That’s the foundation.
Build that first.
Then performance follows.
38
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1w
I've talked about the same problem for days.
That doesn't mean I understood it.
You'd be surprised how little most of us actually know about our problems.
And you'd be surprised how little we want to understand them at a deeper level.
We'd rather talk around them than look underneath them.
Don't get me wrong.
Digging deeper isn't always the right move.
Sometimes the deeper analysis is just another way of avoiding the action.
But there's one question that tells you which direction is right:
Does going deeper bring me closer to the outcome I actually want?
If yes, dig.
If not, it's not depth you need. It's a decision.
36
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1w
WHEN YOU SIT IN SILENCE, YOU'RE NOT SITTING IN SILENCE. YOU'RE SITTING WITH YOUR THOUGHTS.
If you get bored easily, ask yourself this: do you find your thoughts scary? Do you find your thoughts boring and not worthy of your time?
Ask yourself: how do you feel about these thoughts? What do you feel right now?
Bored?
Scared?
Disgusted?
If you have a happy thought, do you think you're unworthy of it?
How do you feel? What is your emotional experience when you sit with your thoughts?
And then, explore these ideas. Let's say you recognize you have these emotions toward your thoughts.
Let's say you think your thoughts are scary. Think of the opposite: what would be a thought that is not scary to you?
A movie you watched? A trip you had with a friend?
Sit with that instead.
Think of your mind as a library, with a collection of stories, experiences, people, and information. Just realize the wealth of things that live within you, and that you get to experience all of them.
32
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
Writing is a selfish act. (you write for your own sake fist) you want to see those thoughts out of you and you want to see them grow and change. At first you don't write to impress others.
Algorithms take your writing creativity away. Forces you to write in a certain way.
The creative process happens because it HAS to. You do it because you need it to be done in order for you live life.
You need to write.. you need to let it out of you.
33
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
What makes a coaching space actually powerful?
It’s not one thing. It’s a combination.
Coaches offer a space that’s hard to find:
1-A space that slows you down
So your thoughts can catch up with you.
2-A space without judgment
Where you can say things as they are.
3-A space that sharpens your thinking
Not louder. Just clearer.
4-A space that stays with you
Even after the conversation ends.
5-A space that respects your pace
No rush. No pressure.
And a quick tip:
Choose a coach who is still growing.
Because holding this kind of space takes practice.
Listening.
Questioning.
Being present.
That work never really stops.
The right space doesn’t feel intense. It feels honest.
25
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
Is it a good thing to follow your intuition?
There are people -like me- who totally ignore intuition. I shut it down. (I rely on data)
But there are people who trust that every feeling is an intuition they can follow.
Ashley Doughlas (https://lnkd.in/d3cGWi7e) says neither is wise
Each has its own benefits, and if you only rely on one you're missing out on the benefits of the other one.
Tell me what you think in the comments..
25
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
Define success for where you are now.. Not the place you want to go..
It's a good practice..
26
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
1 coaching question destroys guilt..
What action is this feeling of guilt driving me to do?
What action am I going to take?
26
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1w
How would you define personal inflexibility? I am curios to hear your thoughts.
14
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
If I have a message for people who say I can't write.
It's: start writing badly.
43
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
This story was shared anonymously on Reddit
Let me know how would you respond/ provide help for the person asking.
“I am 19M and i have no discipline in my life, i sleep for 12 hours a day, eat
shit and scroll all day and my attention span is so bad that i cant even watch a youtube video or a movie, however i still go to the gym and i have a decent slim body with muscles but i know i could do so much better if i focused on my diet but i keep procrastinating to do it, i also suffer from adult videos and i have tried to quit but i keep relapsing.
I really want to have productive days and learn editing, finance skills, social
skills and get in shape before university which starts on September but i lack discipline and courage in me, i also can't keep up for e.g i decided to upload tiktok edits and i only did it for 2 days before quitting.
I waste complete days scrolling through X, insta, tiktok and youtube instead of focusing on myself and self improving, and i really want to improve but i just can't keep up”
37
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
3w
I am starting a new newsletter. It’s titled: Your Weekly Dose of Personal Coaching.
First article is out: The GROW Model in Simple Words.
Would love to hear your feedback!
Click below to read the full article.
The GROW Model in Simple Words
32
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
Nobody can teach you how to become the best version of yourself.
That part is internal.
It happens through you, and by you.
And yet, there’s a strong pull toward more information.
More frameworks.
More step-by-step guidance.
More content that promises clarity.
1-The belief
It can feel like being informative is the goal.
Like value must come from teaching something new.
2-The overload
At some point, more input stops creating progress.
It starts creating noise.
Not because learning is bad.
But because not everything needs to be explained.
- The shift
Knowing something is not the same as becoming it.
Information can point.
It can guide.
But it cannot do the work for someone.
- The role of a coach
For me, coaching isn’t about delivering answers.
It’s about creating space.
Asking better questions.
Helping someone see what’s already there.
Because the real change doesn’t come from being told.
It comes from recognizing.
Choosing.
Acting.
In a way that feels true to you.
Information can open the door.
Walking through it is always personal.
28
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
Go from: What am I listening to?
To: What am I listening for?
4 steps to go from A to B:
Quite your thoughts
Write your thoughts down
Catch yourself when you want to interrupt a person
Practice, practice, practice.
This adds "purpose" to listening.
Levels up the quality of your conversations
26
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
2mo
Did you see what Oracle did last week? Firing 30,000 employees in 1 day.. about that
Mass layoffs like this, don’t just cut jobs, they quietly reshape how people see their own worth.
Oracle sparked a lot of conversations.
Not just about business.
About identity.
About value.
And about a question many people don’t say out loud.
“If a company can replace thousands overnight… what does that make me worth?”
Let’s slow that down for a second.
1. Your paycheck is a transaction
It reflects a role, a market, a moment in time.
Nothing more.
Nothing less.
It is not a full reflection of your capabilities, your character, or your potential.
2. AI is changing how work gets done
That part is real.
Tasks are evolving.
Roles are shifting.
But tools replacing tasks does not equal people losing value.
It just means the definition of valuable work is moving.
3. The dangerous narrative
When people start tying their worth to replaceability, confidence quietly erodes.
You start negotiating from fear.
You start shrinking your voice.
And that’s where the real loss happens.
Not in the layoff.
But in how someone sees themselves after it.
4. A better way to look at it
Your value is not your hourly rate.
Your value is how you think, adapt, create, and connect.
Those things don’t show up neatly on a paycheck.
But they compound over time.
Always have.
Always will.
The people who navigate moments like this best aren’t the ones who panic.
They’re the ones who separate identity from employment.
And keep building anyway.
Because markets fluctuate.
Technology evolves.
But self-worth, that’s an internal decision.
If your role disappeared tomorrow, what parts of you would still be valuable?
Those are the parts worth investing in.
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Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
Define success for where you are now.. Not the place you want to go..
It's a good practice..
26
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
2w
Story shared anonymously on Reddit. Curious to know how would you provide help.
"Over the past few months, I realized that my lack of discipline wasn’t about laziness. It was more about mental friction. Simple tasks like writing emails, short posts, or messages felt heavier than they should. Not because I didn’t know what to say, but because I kept trying to make everything perfect from the very first sentence.
That perfectionism kept slowing me down and made me procrastinate. Recently, I decided to focus on process instead of perfection. I started breaking tasks into smaller steps, allowing myself to write bad first drafts, and using a few tools and small systems to help me get started faster instead of staring at a blank page.
The change wasn’t dramatic overnight, but it’s been consistent. I finish tasks faster, feel less overwhelmed, and I actually follow through on things more often now. It made me realize how much discipline is really about removing friction, not forcing motivation.
Curious to hear from others here: What habits, systems, or tools helped you stay more consistent?"
21
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
The best motivator for skill development is purpose.
“I’m not good at this yet.
But I need to get good at it.”
That’s what brings you back after a bad performance.
After the rejection.
After the awkward first attempt.
After falling flat on your face (yes, that part too).
Because:
When your reason is weak, you stop fast.
When your reason is strong, you return.
I learned this from the book Hell Yeah or No.
There’s a moment where the coach tells the author:
“You didn’t want it enough.”
That line stayed with me.
At first, it sounded harsh. Later, I realized it was true.
There were things I said I wanted.
But not badly enough to keep going when it got uncomfortable.
And that changed how I look at growth.
If you really want the skill, you’ll keep showing up.
Messy.
Inconsistent.
Embarrassed.
Still showing up.
So if you’re struggling to improve at something right now, ask yourself one honest question:
How badly do you actually want it?
Sometimes the problem isn’t your talent.
It’s your reason.
What’s one skill you know you need to develop, and why does it matter to you?
36
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
If you think asking for help is a weakness.. this post is for you..
There's a diagnostic model called KSA: Knowledge, Skills, Attitude.
When something isn't getting done, the gap is usually one of those three.
But when someone won't ask for help, it's almost never a knowledge gap.
It's rarely a skill gap.
It's almost always an attitude gap.
A quiet belief running in the background.
"If I ask, they'll think I'm not capable."
"If I ask, I owe them."
"If I ask, I lose."
But the truth is:
Every time you don't ask, you also rob someone else of the chance to contribute.
In Karpman's Drama Triangle, the Rescuer never gets to be helped: because they've built their identity on being the one who helps.
That's not strength.
That's a role.
The real strength is letting yourself need something. And letting someone else be the one to give.
What's one thing you've been carrying alone.. that you could ask someone to help with this week?
34
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
4 stages to learn anything in life:
1- Unconscious incompetence
(I don’t know what I’m not good at)
Johari model’s blind spot
2- Conscious incompetence
(I know what I’m not good at)
3- Conscious competence
(I know what I’m good at)
4- Unconscious competence
(I don’t know what I’m good at)
The stage you’re in changes how learning feels.
Confusing. Frustrating. Smooth. Effortless.
But none of them are permanent.
If it feels hard, you’re not stuck. You’re just in the middle.
33
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
2mo
Trigger → Emotion → Interpretation → Reaction → Outcome
A simple way to understand anger, without making it the enemy
Anger is an emotion.
That part is neutral.
What shapes the outcome is what happens after.
1-The trigger
Something happens.
A comment, a situation, a moment that doesn’t sit right.
2-The emotion
Anger shows up.
Not as a problem, but as a signal.
3-The gap
This is the part that often feels invisible.
The space between feeling and reacting.
When that space is missed, reactions can feel automatic.
1. The naming
“I’m angry.”
“This feels unfair.”
“I feel disrespected.”
Putting words to the feeling creates a pause.
And that pause changes what’s possible next.
2. The response
Not suppression.
Not explosion.
But a choice that aligns with the outcome you actually want.
Because anger, on its own, isn’t the issue.
It’s unprocessed anger (unhealthily expressed) that tends to create friction.
And awareness is what gives it direction.
Some people practice checking in with themselves.
Some are still building that habit.
Both are part of the process.
Emotions don’t need to be rushed.
Naming them is often where clarity begins.
23
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
2w
Read your story as from a third person's perspective, and you'll hear it differently...
We're not used to our own thoughts being heard by someone else's voice...
25
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
1mo
Coaching is not therapy, but it's therapeutic.
32
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
2mo
You have blind spots.
We all do.
They are the things about us that others can see, but we can't.
A model called the Johari Window explains this.
It describes four areas of self-awareness:
Open
What you and others know.
Hidden
What you know, but others do not.
Blind
What others see, but you do not.
Unknown
What no one knows yet.
Most people believe they are self-aware.
Research by Tasha Eurich found that about 95% of people think they are.
Only 10–15% actually are.
That gap matters.
It affects trust.
It affects how feedback lands.
It limits our impact.
Improving self-awareness starts with better questions.
Not why.
Why often leads to stories and justification.
Ask what instead.
What could I do differently next time?
What did you notice?
What feedback do you have for me?
Then listen.
That is how blind spots shrink.
And that is how trust grows.
27
Coach by passion before profession, Public Speaker, Entrepreneur, CPT, Sr. Water Quality Specialist.
2w
Why X is doing Y?
Why are they behaving this way?
Because:
People are different.
People are different.
People are different.
People are different.
People are different.
People are different.
Read levels of intelligence
Read personality types
Read leadership styles
Read introverts VS extroverts
22