Awkward silence once made me $30,000.
When the financial crisis hit in 2009, my freelance clients dropped off and all my work dried up. I was left with just one client—who then offered me a full-time job. There was only one problem: I was 18 years old and had no idea how to negotiate a salary.
I asked friends and family, read a book on negotiation, and picked up a few tips. One was to let the employer speak first, and when they named a salary, don't immediately accept or decline—respond thoughtfully and keep negotiating. I had done my research and planned ahead.
On the drive to lunch with Ken, the COO, I was thinking about what salary I wanted. $45,000 would be good. $50,000 would be amazing.
Then, about midway through our lunch, Ken said, "We'd love for you to join the team at $50,000 per year. Does that work?"
I wanted to shout "yes" and immediately accept. But right as Ken started talking, I had taken a bite of my bagel sandwich. Too big of a bite. I was raised with good manners, so there was no way I was going to talk with my mouth full.
I just kept chewing. And chewing. And chewing.
The more I silently chewed that obnoxiously dense bagel, the more Ken seemed to grow uncomfortable.
Then he broke the awkward silence: "Or we could make it $60,000."
I finally swallowed, smiled, and said, "$60,000 will work just fine. Let's talk about the rest of the comp package."
I stayed at that company for nearly three years, so enduring that moment of awkwardness earned me nearly $30,000 more than the salary I would have happily accepted.
Most people aren’t willing to ask for the full market value of their skills because they fear the discomfort of potential rejection. That would have been my reaction to the $50,000 offer, had it not been for my mother’s strict manners and that lucky bite of my sandwich.